CMC is not communication via computers anymore, its communication via electronic tools. The definition changes with time/development/society. Wonder in 2040, what will CMC means then?
I think one of the advantages of CMC is to be able to communicate with each other anytime through communication channel such as facebook, msn in the era where we are all too busy with many things, so its something for us to connect with our friends. This is even more important for people who are working / studying away from home, like our Swedish classmate Anna.
But recently I read an article about Blackberry and suicide with a causal relationship - with France Telecom (of which 22 employees committed suicide) as an example. Employees are under the stress of checking their emails 24/7 - who says about relaxation after working hours? not for France Telecom employees who are all given blackberrys. And the spat of cyber-bullying which is facilitated by such communication networks via blogs/social networking websites.
Hmm … I think it was interesting to know that the acceptance/rejection/denigration of compliments is extended to the online sphere and virtual world
Some examples I have encountered:
Facebook (complimenting about ability)
R1: btw, i luv e box card.. u r really gd with crafts.. go consider opening a craft class
R2: hahah, ah no la, xian chou le (making a fool) hehe, but glad u liked it =) =) =)
R1: chou (ugly)? plz la... it is nice lor... i shld really take a pic n post it in facebook...
I think that there is one additional step that R1 takes – refuting the self-denigration of the receiver (R2) and sort of making the receiver accept the compliments – cos he/she deserves. That’s just what I think =P
SMS
J1: Omg Omg Omg. Totally love love the presents. The belt is wonderful, fits perfectly, And loved the card more .. Nicely pinned on my notice board.. Haha …
J2: Haha, np, I almost din buy the belt buckle lol … give you the belt thingy only wahaha
J1: Haha.. Your card still bestest.. Oh I thought the belt comes together one set.. Haha but still very nice
I do not really know what to make of this conversation above, because J2 accepted, but did not denigrate but shifts the attention away from the compliments (about the presents) and talks about other issues (belt and buckle).
Although the compliments are rejected or the receiver denigrates, I do feel that, on a side note, the compliments are often appreciated, just that we are being socialized into not accepting and agreeing with compliments in earnest =].
But I also feel that conversations online allows us freedom to invent words that are really ridiculous. As the SMS conversation above, the word “bestest” is used here, but in formal language there is no such word. Some words that I have used amongst my friends are “died-ed”, “tbs” (acronym for troublesome) and “mostest” Really ridiculous in terms of formal language but a good laugh and connection among friends in the virtual world.
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Coming to gender identity in instant messaging, one very surprising finding was the usage of profanities is more prominent in FF conversations; although the results might not be generalizable, I think that most females are supposed to maintain an image of not swearing and screaming vulgarities in public and thus, we use profanities online instead? I guess the above explanation can be applicable to me somehow as use a lot of “damns” and “bloody hell” in online conversations but not as much as in public haha…
Also, I notice female friends give more encouragement and are more expressive with their encouragements. For example, in the same situation of encouraging/consoling:
females will say things like, jiayou (keep it up) \ ^_^ /, I got belief in you and stuff like that,
but on the other hand…
males on the other hand tend to say things like, tahan tahan, very fast then over already, chop chop
Males are usually more reserved than females in expressing such things like encouragements, praises, etc – is it an image they have to keep or uphold? That they should not be whiny and emotional like females (according to my brother)? Or does the situation change according to who the other party is, like males tend to be showing more affection and saying encouragment to your girlfriends?
sigh*, like most females, i tend to draggggg and nagggg in CMC communications, sorry if the relfections are too long but I can't help it =(.
See you all next week, all the best for all assignments!! =)
I think one of the advantages of CMC is to be able to communicate with each other anytime through communication channel such as facebook, msn in the era where we are all too busy with many things, so its something for us to connect with our friends. This is even more important for people who are working / studying away from home, like our Swedish classmate Anna.
But recently I read an article about Blackberry and suicide with a causal relationship - with France Telecom (of which 22 employees committed suicide) as an example. Employees are under the stress of checking their emails 24/7 - who says about relaxation after working hours? not for France Telecom employees who are all given blackberrys. And the spat of cyber-bullying which is facilitated by such communication networks via blogs/social networking websites.
Hmm … I think it was interesting to know that the acceptance/rejection/denigration of compliments is extended to the online sphere and virtual world
Some examples I have encountered:
Facebook (complimenting about ability)
R1: btw, i luv e box card.. u r really gd with crafts.. go consider opening a craft class
R2: hahah, ah no la, xian chou le (making a fool) hehe, but glad u liked it =) =) =)
R1: chou (ugly)? plz la... it is nice lor... i shld really take a pic n post it in facebook...
I think that there is one additional step that R1 takes – refuting the self-denigration of the receiver (R2) and sort of making the receiver accept the compliments – cos he/she deserves. That’s just what I think =P
SMS
J1: Omg Omg Omg. Totally love love the presents. The belt is wonderful, fits perfectly, And loved the card more .. Nicely pinned on my notice board.. Haha …
J2: Haha, np, I almost din buy the belt buckle lol … give you the belt thingy only wahaha
J1: Haha.. Your card still bestest.. Oh I thought the belt comes together one set.. Haha but still very nice
I do not really know what to make of this conversation above, because J2 accepted, but did not denigrate but shifts the attention away from the compliments (about the presents) and talks about other issues (belt and buckle).
Although the compliments are rejected or the receiver denigrates, I do feel that, on a side note, the compliments are often appreciated, just that we are being socialized into not accepting and agreeing with compliments in earnest =].
But I also feel that conversations online allows us freedom to invent words that are really ridiculous. As the SMS conversation above, the word “bestest” is used here, but in formal language there is no such word. Some words that I have used amongst my friends are “died-ed”, “tbs” (acronym for troublesome) and “mostest” Really ridiculous in terms of formal language but a good laugh and connection among friends in the virtual world.
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Coming to gender identity in instant messaging, one very surprising finding was the usage of profanities is more prominent in FF conversations; although the results might not be generalizable, I think that most females are supposed to maintain an image of not swearing and screaming vulgarities in public and thus, we use profanities online instead? I guess the above explanation can be applicable to me somehow as use a lot of “damns” and “bloody hell” in online conversations but not as much as in public haha…
Also, I notice female friends give more encouragement and are more expressive with their encouragements. For example, in the same situation of encouraging/consoling:
females will say things like, jiayou (keep it up) \ ^_^ /, I got belief in you and stuff like that,
but on the other hand…
males on the other hand tend to say things like, tahan tahan, very fast then over already, chop chop
Males are usually more reserved than females in expressing such things like encouragements, praises, etc – is it an image they have to keep or uphold? That they should not be whiny and emotional like females (according to my brother)? Or does the situation change according to who the other party is, like males tend to be showing more affection and saying encouragment to your girlfriends?
sigh*, like most females, i tend to draggggg and nagggg in CMC communications, sorry if the relfections are too long but I can't help it =(.
See you all next week, all the best for all assignments!! =)
Thanks for the additional CMC examples of compliment sequences. The second example is a bit different from what we have come across. The response may be taken as a kind of deflecting?
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